Group 6: Good Decisions

6a: Individual decision-making

  • Positive aim. Aiming toward making things better. Seeking reward and not punishment.
  • Thinking before acting. Thinking, rather than responding impulsively or by reflex, when it’s useful to do so.
  • Fluency. Using words to conceptualize the world: verbal skills.
  • Awareness of your emotions. Recognizing, and being able to verbalize your own feelings.
  • Awareness of control. Accurately assessing the degree of control you have over specific events.
  • Decision-making. Defining a problem, gathering information, generating options, predicting and evaluating consequences, making a choice.

6b: Joint decision-making, including conflict resolution

  • Toleration. Non-bossiness. Tolerating a wide range of other people’s behavior.
  • Rational approach to joint decisions. Deciding rationally on stance and strategies for joint decisions.
  • Option-generating. Generating creative options for solutions to problems.
  • Option-evaluating. Justice skills: Recognizing just solutions to interpersonal problems. 
  • Assertion. Dominance, sticking up for yourself, taking charge, enjoying winning.
  • Submission: Conciliation, giving in, conceding, admitting one was wrong, being led.
  • Differential reinforcement. Reinforcing positive behavior and avoiding reinforcing the negative.

 

- Book excerpts, Instructions on Psychological Skills:

 

- Sample Good Decisions modeling story, Programmed Readings for Psychological Skills:

 

     Bob and Rick went to the park. Fred and Sam got there at the same time. Bob said, "Did you guys want to play tennis now?"

     Sam said, "Yes, we wanted to play tennis."

     Bob said, "That's what we came here for, too. And there's only one court."

     Sam said, "Let's think of what we could do."

     Bob said, "We could take turns playing one game and resting."

     Rick said, "We could flip a coin. The winning pair could play a whole set." 

     Fred said, "One pair could go and come back later."

     Sam said, "We could play doubles. All four could play at once."

     They decided to play doubles. All four of them played. They had a good time. They got to know each other, too.

 

A. good decisions,

or

B. self-discipline?